BY THE CREATOR OF FACT CHECKED FAITH

The Expectation Gap

Alongside my work with Fact Checked Faith, I’m also the author of The Expectation Gap, a book exploring how expectations shape our relationships and how we can respond when reality falls short.

Change Your Expectations to Transform Your Relationships

“Peace is found where expectations meet grace.”

— Jamie Hallman, author of The Expectation Gap

Discover how unspoken expectations can quietly shape your relationships and fuel disappointment. The Expectation Gap helps you uncover what you expect from yourself and others, understand where those expectations come from, and take practical steps toward more intentional, fulfilling relationships.

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Bridge the gap between what you expect and what you experience

Jamie Hallman reading The Expectation Gap

The Expectation Gap provides a fresh perspective on navigating the space between expectations and reality in relationships. Discover how to turn unmet or unspoken expectations into opportunities for grace, understanding, and growth. This transformation not only strengthens your connections but also fosters a healthier, happier, and more fulfilled version of yourself—grounded in practical insights, spiritual truths, and evidence-based research that reveal how we communicate and adjust to others profoundly impacts our relationships.

Jamie Hallman, author of 'The Expectation Gap, ' speaking at a women's event along with a woman holding her book.

Improve your relationships with practical exercises based on scientific and spiritual principles.

Dive into the heart of transformation with a blend of scientific studies, personal stories, and spiritual truths. In The Expectation Gap, you'll uncover evidence-based insights, relatable experiences, and timeless wisdom to help bridge the gap between where you are and where you want your relationships to be. Each chapter concludes with practical application exercises, making it easy to turn powerful concepts into tangible actions.

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What Readers Are Saying

  • After most chapters, the reader is prodded with an opportunity to self reflect by answering questions around that chapters subject matter. These useful reflections ensure that the reader leaves with actionable reminders that will create a lasting impact. This book can help you understand yourself more, as well as help you have more intentional, meaningful relationships. Ultimately, this quick read provides entertainment, helpful information, and down-to-earth advice.

    Jade S.

  • Very intuitive and insightful with real-life application. Exercises after each chapter are very thought-provoking and enable the reader to personally engage in the practical application of the ideas presented. Well worth the read, and if applied, these principles can actually be life-changing.

    Vickie B.

  • In her book, Jamie Hallman devotes eight chapters to helping us understand the science behind expectations, identifying and managing them, and the role they play in maintaining healthy relationships when managed well. I loved how practical the book was and the exercises that she gives throughout the book are incredibly helpful for getting really clear about your expectations. She is truly committed to helping us learn to manage them in a healthy way through practice and education.

    Brandi D.

  • What's great about this book is that Jamie not only shares her own experiences dealing with expectations but also provides scientific proof to support her ideas. And here's the best part: the book has exercises you can do to put what you've learned into action. These exercises are practice lessons to help you recognize when you put expectations on yourself and others and how to build healthy habits around them. In a nutshell, 'The Expectation Gap' by Jamie Hallman is a book that helps you understand how expectations work, both the good and the not-so-good. It's a useful tool for making your life more fulfilling and helping you build deeper relationships with others.

    Susan R.

  • Such an important read for relationships and for thriving marriages. Expectations and the disappointments we experience and feel are the cause of so many unnecessary disagreements. Thank you for this important conversation!

    Carrie H.

  • If you want to be challenged in the best way - get a copy of this book! The author gives personal examples of how she struggled with expectations of herself and others and applied practical examples to walk in freedom and better self awareness. She gives you an opportunity to self reflect at the end of each chapter by asking and answering questions on the chapters subject matter. If you want more intentional, meaningful relationships and to understand yourself better then get this book! She is simple, concise and to the point and gives great examples, plus its inexpensive! She keeps it real and interesting and it's a quick, enjoyable read. This is definitely a book you can gift, and reread over and over.

    Brittany H.

  • This is an amazing book with words of gold. I really think the words of wisdom found in this book is very easy to miss in these days. It’s paramount to relational intelligence and relational success.

    Bernice

  • Jamie does such a great job of using scientific study, the Word of God and her own experiences to outline one of the biggest problems we face in maintaining healthy and satisfying relationships. While the content seems a bit obvious at first, (like duh we all know expectations play a huge role in relationships), it's the way she goes about breaking down and journeying with you in the process that makes this book so worthwhile. If you've never stopped to journal about your obvious and intrinsic expectations for those closest to you and why, this book will be a gem for you. Do the exercises she includes at the end of every chapter! Watch your relationships blossom. And then share the book with a friend

    Kathryn

  • I just want to say that the Lord put this book in my path and ever since reading it, it helped me grow in my relationship with my fiancee and it revealed to me how the enemy really attacks the mind. I used to think I love people more then they love me and I was just hurting myself and this book (through the Holy Spirits Lens's) helped me see how to correct my thought process! Worth your time and money.

    Lydia H.

  • Jamie did a great job explaining the research behind our expectations and how these expectations have an effect on so many things we do and relationships we care about. She encourages and equips you with ways that you can re-examine those relationships closest to you and make a choice for positive change. As a Christian, I appreciated how she tied these truths together with the truth of the Bible. I walked away from this read with some new things to consider and a new ways to confront relational conflict when it may arise.

    Sarina T.